Thank You Messages After the Funeral: Here’s How to Convey Your Sincere Appreciation

By: VGFS
Tuesday, October 26, 2021

Losing a loved one is a deeply emotional experience. When people have demonstrated care, compassion, and support during this difficult time, it is appropriate to thank them.

Knowing what to write in a funeral thank you note can be challenging, though, and mere words may not seem sufficient to express your deep gratitude.

If you’re struggling with funeral thank you notes, this article offers some helpful pointers and examples to get your creative juices flowing.

Construct a simple note of thanks.

There is no specific format that funeral thank you cards must follow. They don’t need to be lengthy or formal, but they should be sincere and personal. Two or three sentences are more than enough. The following is a good template for a simple note of thanks:

  • Start by addressing the recipient. “Dear ______” is the standard greeting and works perfectly for a message of thanks.
  • Thank them for their support, condolences, gift, or whatever way they were there for you. Something simple like, “Thank you so much for thinking of me during such a difficult time. Your words were very comforting.”
  • Add a meaningful sentiment about how much they helped, such as, “I will never forget your support and friendship.”
  • End your note with an appropriate closing such as “Love”, “Fondly”, “Warm regards”, or the like before signing your name.

The goal is to express gratitude for the kindness shown to you and your family. Whatever sentiment you include in your message, the recipient will appreciate that you made the effort to say thank you.

Who should receive a thank you card?

Don’t feel that you must send a formal thank you note to every person who came to the funeral or sent you a card acknowledging the passing of your loved one. However, you should make it a point to formally acknowledge those who:

  • Sent or brought flowers
  • Made a donation to a charity in honor of your loved one
  • Sent personal letters of condolence
  • Provided tangible help like bringing food, watching children, or running errands
  • Were pallbearers and honorary pallbearers
  • Musicians who performed at the funeral
  • Did a reading at the service
  • The clergy member or officiant who presided over the service

Don’t worry if time has passed.

There is no set deadline when it comes to sending out funeral thank you cards, although getting them out within a month after the funeral or memorial service is ideal. Even if it takes some time for you to feel ready to tackle the task of writing thank-you notes, people will understand. It is never too late to send them out. The bereavement process is challenging and your friends and family will be sympathetic to your circumstances.

Break a long list into pieces.

If you have many people on your thank you list, tackling the entire thing at once can be overwhelming. Breaking the task up into smaller, manageable pieces makes it easier to get started. Tackle a few notes as you feel up to it and you’ll be finished in no time.

Notecards are perfectly acceptable.

You can purchase blank note cards or sympathy thank you notes that contain a preprinted message. If you opt for preprinted notecards, you should add a brief personal message of thanks.

It is a polite gesture to express gratitude for the people who were there for you during your bereavement. It may even help you heal as you remember those who thought so much of you and your departed loved one during this difficult time.

We hope these funeral thank you note tips and examples will help you make it clear how much you appreciated the support of your friends and family. If you need additional information or suggestions, please feel free to reach out to our caring staff anytime. It is always our pleasure to assist you.

About Vaughn Greene Funeral Services: For more than 20 years, Vaughn Greene Funeral Services has been providing a ministry of care to Baltimore’s African American community. As a leading local, minority- and family-owned provider, we promise to provide our highest level of service and respect to families who entrust us to honor their loved ones. For more information, please call us at 410.655.0015 or visit us online at https://vaughncgreene.com/.

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